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This Is Not the Life I Ordered
60 Ways to Keep Your Head Above Water When Life Keeps Dragging You Down (Revised, Updated, and Expanded)
Deborah Collins Stephens, Michealene Cristini Risley, Jan Yanehiro, Jackie Speier, Foreword by Rita Moreno
ISBN: 9781573247375
Book (Paperback)
Conari Press
5 1/4 x 8 1/2
240 pages
30 illustrations
April 1, 2019


"...a must-read for all women and the men who love them..." - Rita Moreno

“Inspiration to survive the worst luck and . . . climb into a new life with unexpected happiness.” --Amy Tan

“I wish I had this book 30 years ago. What a welcome source of inspiration and insight.” --Linda Ellerbee

“These women inspire us to go for the gold in our lives. They all deserve 10s!” --Kristi Yamaguchi

A revised, updated, and expanded edition of the best-selling self-help book that encourages women to overcome adversity, embrace change, and discover their power.

This Is Not the Life I Ordered is the culmination of weekly “kitchen table coaching” sessions that took place for more than a decade and were designed to support four extraordinary women through life’s ups and downs. These women realized that their support of one another could help other women struggling with life’s myriad issues of work, family, and love, as well as the big questions of life and death. The power and strength of their collective friendship has enabled them to not only survive but to thrive, and the remarkable results are in this collection of lessons and stories and wisdom, which can help women turn any unfortunate event into a joy-filled opportunity.

Twenty-five percent of the material in this edition is completely new: 2 of the stories have been updated, many new interviews have been included, and there are 2 new chapters—one about the Me Too Movement and one focusing on the experience of loss for adult children.

Deborah Collins Stephens is the co-founder and managing partner of the Center for Innovative Leadership.
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Michealene Cristini Risley is an entrepreneur who has created some of the largest deals in the consumer products and entertainment industries.
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Jan Yanehiro is the executive producer of Pacific Fusion TV syndicated in the United States, Europe, and Asia.
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Jackie Speier was sworn in into the United States Congress in April of 2008. She represents California's 12th Congressional District.
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