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Constructive Wallowing
How to Beat Bad Feelings by Letting Yourself Have Them
Tina Gilbertson
ISBN: 9781936740802
Book (Paperback)
Viva Editions
5 1/2 x 7 1/4
256 pages
May 13, 2014


"To constructively wallow immerse yourself in your real feelings with compassion and understanding." —

"Next time life gets you down don't put on a happy face says psychotherapist Tina Gilbertson author of the new book Constructive Wallowing [...] Crying punching your pillow and screaming are all healthy ways to deal. (Just don't kick the cat)." —Health

"If you’ve ever ignored difficult feelings or if your inner critic has been riding you to be constructive every minute of the day psychotherapist Gilbertson has written a counterintuitive self-help book that offers constructive advice for boosting self-compassion by wallowing in negative feelings." —Publishers Weekly

"Laughter is the best medicine as many have said and psychotherapist Tina Gilbertson’s new book Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings by Letting Yourself Have Them is laugh-out-loud funny. The author conveys her insightful thesis in smart welcoming language that entertains and enlightens along the way." —ForeWord Reviews

“Constructive wallowing” seems like an oxymoron. Constructive is a good thing, but wallowing is bad. Right?

But wait a minute; is it really so terrible to give ourselves a time-out to feel our feelings? Or is it possible that wallowing is an act of loving kindness, right when we need it most?

Almost everyone loves the idea of self-compassion — the notion that maybe in spite of our messy emotions and questionable behavior, we really aren’t all that bad. In recent years there’s been an explosion of books that encourage readers to stop beating themselves up for being human, which is terrific. Unfortunately, readers who aren’t interested in Buddhism or meditation have been left out in the cold.

Constructive Wallowing is the first book to cut right to the chase, bypassing descriptions of Eastern philosophy and meditation techniques to teach readers how to accept and feel their feelings with self-compassion for greater emotional health.

It’s tempting to turn away from menacing, uncomfortable feelings like anger, grief, or regret; however, ignoring them just seems to make them stick around. By learning to accept and embrace, difficult feelings, readers keep their sense of personal power and gain greater understanding and ultimately esteem for themselves.

Tina Gilbertson is a successful therapist workshop leader and blogger living in Portland OR.
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